If you’re into sex toys, you’ve probably noticed that it’s not always easy to distinguish between a vibrator and a dildo. Many people use the two terms interchangeably, which adds to the impression that they’re pretty much the same thing. However, they’re definitely different, and there are many reasons why you might want to know what those differences are.
Understanding how sex toys differ from one another is essential when it comes to having accurate, satisfying conversations about sex and adult toys. It also helps simplify the process of shopping for new toys, understanding how to get the most out of them, and more. Here’s a look at the key differences to know.
What They’re For
Naturally, both vibrators and dildos are designed with sexual pleasure in mind. In many cases, that pleasure will be penetrative in nature when it comes to both items. However, dildos are strictly for penetrative pleasure, with most standing in for a human penis.
On the other hand, vibrators mainly focus on sensory pleasure instead. So, yes, you can also use many vibrators for penetration. But you can just as easily use them for external stimulation, as well, so they’re great for people who want to leave their options open.
Whether They Vibrate
Some people assume that a dildo is nothing more than a vibrator that doesn’t vibrate, but this really isn’t accurate. Some dildos actually do vibrate and are rightly marketed as vibrating dildos. However, a vibrator will always vibrate, as that’s a vital part of its function.
So, what’s the difference between a vibrator and a vibrating dildo? A vibrating dildo will still present, more or less, like a standard dildo from a functionality standpoint. Dildos are often harness-compatible, feature attached suction cups so they can be used hands-free, or both.
What They’re Made Of
As with vibrations, there’s a lot of ground here that could apply to either dildos or vibrators. But the main difference is going to be about whether a given material pairs well with vibrations or not. Vibrators tend to be made of softer, more flexible materials like soft silicone or jelly rubber, which are more effective at conveying vibrations.
On the other hand, a dildo is all about penetration, first and foremost. For that reason, super-flexible dildos are rare. They need to be nice and hard to really fulfill their purpose, so you’re more likely to see dildos made of rigid materials like glass or hard silicone.
How You Can Use Them
Both dildos and vibrators offer more than one possibility as to how you can enjoy them. But that array of choices will naturally vary according to which type of toy you’re using.
Again, dildos are primarily focused on internal stimulation. And you’ll see that’s the case by the sheer variety that’s out there. Dildos can be small, huge, or any size in between. Some vibrate or have motors, while others don’t. Most also have suction cups for hands-free penetration, harness-compatible bases for penetrative partner play, or both.
However, a vibrator’s multi-functionality is about putting external stimulation on the table as a possibility. Of course, many vibrators can also be inserted and enjoyed that way, but the potential for external pleasure is always a must.
What They Cost
There will always be exceptions to this rule, but generally speaking, toys with moving parts and motors will cost more than toys without. That said, dildos are typically the more cost-effective option for pleasure seekers, as most dildos stand alone without the motors and other features a vibrator might have.
Even within the world of vibrators, you’ll see a wide range of different prices. Very basic vibrators made of inexpensive materials will set you back reasonably little. But if you’re looking for something with all the bells and whistles, dual motors, and the whole nine yards, you’re looking at a bigger investment.
What You’re Looking For
Ultimately, there’s no definitive answer to whether a vibrator is better than a dildo or vice versa. A person’s choice of sex toys is very personal, and everyone is looking for something different. For that reason, the best place to start when deciding for yourself is usually with an honest assessment of what you’re looking for and would like to experience.
How important is external stimulation to you? Is the idea of being penetrated by a penis arousing to you or off-putting? Do you want to be able to use the toy with a partner, and if so, how? Are you buying this toy for a specific purpose, or are you looking for a multifunctional option that can do it all?
Many people don’t have just one answer to questions like these and choose to collect different toys for different purposes, so there’s no need to limit yourself unless you want to. Just start with what you’re most interested in, and take it from there.
