Some of the things that turn men on are absolute no-brainers. For instance, few red-blooded males won’t get excited how great your ass looks in the right pair of jeans or the fact that you’re a total blow job expert. However, men are a lot more complex than you might think they are.
In other words, quite a few of things that tend to turn men on are less obvious. That doesn’t make them any less powerful or effective at getting a man’s attention though. The following are just a few of our favorites. How many can you check off of your personal list?
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Altruism
Doing something good for your community or for the planet doesn’t just make you feel good about yourself. Your altruistic need to help make the world a better place might actually be earning you some serious male attention. According to a 2016 study published in the British Journal of Psychology, people that frequently help others are not only rated as more desirable by the opposite sex, but they have sex a lot more often as well.
Why is that the case? Experts actually believe that altruism goes hand in hand with other sexually desirable traits from an evolutionary standpoint, meaning it’s something that tells a man you’d make a good mate all around. That said, an afternoon spent volunteering together might not be the first thing you think of when you want to spice up your sex life, but maybe it should be! Making sure your social media and dating profiles include a few shots of you helping your community certainly wouldn’t hurt either.
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Matching Lingerie
At this point, it’s no secret to anyone that men love pretty, sexy lingerie on a woman. However, you may be surprised at what leads a given man to prefer one ensemble over another. (Hint: it’s not the color, the fabric, or even the style.) If you really want to turn a guy on, wear lingerie that matches.
As far as why, a matching lingerie set tells a man that a woman put in extra effort and spent extra money on items no one else would see but him. Knowing your partner thinks you’re worth looking good for can’t help but be a turn-on. So yes, you should totally buy the panties that match that bra. We promise you’re not the only one that will notice it.
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Your Laugh
You’re probably aware that your man loves to make you laugh. You may be less aware of the fact that your laugh actually turns him on. According to some experts, men are aroused on a subconscious level by a woman’s laughter because it subconsciously reminds him of her moans of ecstasy in the bedroom. This is the case whether or not he’s actually heard those moans in person.
That said, being the type of woman that smiles and laughs a lot as a rule doesn’t just make you seem more pleasant and approachable overall. It can also convince the right man that taking you to bed will be well worth it.
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Your Yoga Addiction
Yes, there are guys out there that eschew yoga as part of their own fitness routine because they don’t think of it as “real” exercise. However, they love knowing that you do it. Knowing a woman’s into yoga also means knowing she’s flexible and that a night with her comes alongside endless possibilities as a result. It’s hard not to wonder just what interesting positions you could get her into with a little creativity.
A commitment to fitness in general is total turn-on as well though. Most modern men are impressed by women that are into setting goals and challenging themselves. This is particularly the case when it comes to anything that calls for stamina or fortitude.
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Spontaneity
At the end of the day, men love women that are always down for a good time. That’s because a willingness to think outside the box, go with the flow, and say “yes” to fleeting opportunities to enjoy the moment are associated with such desirable qualities as youth and vigor.
What’s more, a man can’t help but think a spontaneous nature adds up to a willingness to be sexually adventurous as well. He’s looking for someone that isn’t afraid to take the initiative and suggest getting frisky in public or trying out new positions in the bedroom. If you are that girl, don’t be afraid to embrace it.
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Fear
Sex is far from the only thing with the power to fully arouse your entire body. Feelings of fear, anxiety, imminent danger, or being threatened are actually strongly linked with arousal of the brain and nervous system. Exactly why people that go through traumatic experiences together often wind up feeling so much closer to one another as a result!
Keep this in mind when evaluating date ideas to try with a man you’re really interested in. Go see a horror movie together or check out that insane new roller coaster everyone’s been talking about. All the more reason to check activities like skydiving or bungee jumping off of your mutual relationship bucket list as well.
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Familiarity
It’s a common misconception that all men are looking for women that are complete departures from what they’re used to. Yes, a man in search of something that’s missing in his life is open to change, but there’s a lot of evidence to suggest he also craves stability, especially when it comes to his choice in partners.
According to one recent study, men aren’t just drawn to women with shared interests, values, and world views. They’re also sexually drawn to women that regularly occupy the same familiar spaces they do. For instance, male study subjects that decided to pursue a female coworker were more likely to focus on colleagues that went to the same restaurants and entertainment venues they did. In other words, the fact that you and your crush go to the same gym or hang out at the same pubs could really work in your favor!
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Your Curves
Body positivity and size acceptance are definitely on the rise these days. However, it’s only natural to wonder whether men actually find anything less than a gym body complete with a full six-pack attractive, right? It just so happens that they absolutely do. In fact, we feel comfortable saying that most men find your womanly curves to be wildly sexy.
Numerous surveys and studies have actually shown that many men prefer features like wider hips and thicker thighs for subconscious evolutionary reasons. Men are more likely to prefer softer stomachs and womanly curves from head to toe as well.
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Cooking Skills
No, 21st century men don’t expect their women to be in the kitchen making sandwiches 24/7. However, they do find it seriously sexy when a strong, independent woman also knows her way around a really good dish or two.
In fact, you don’t even necessarily need to cook for him for your cooking skills to get him interested in you from a sexual standpoint. He’s just as likely to sit up and take notice if you talk about something you made your family for Christmas dinner or occasionally post snaps of your tastiest creations on Instagram and Facebook.
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Independence
These days, lots of men are seriously turned on by strong, independent women that know what they want in life, so don’t worry that your career goals or your drive to really do something with your life are turning men off. It’s highly likely that it’s having the opposite effect.
When a woman is passionate and take-charge outside of the bedroom, that’s a signal to a male admirer that she’s most likely the same way in the bedroom as well. Plus, it’s downright flattering to be chosen by a sexy lady that not only knows what she wants in life, but isn’t afraid to go out and get it. If you’re the one she wants, then you’re definitely something special.
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Your Sex Toys
Lots of women worry that existing or potential men in their lives will be turned off or intimidated by the fact that they keep a vibrator or a dildo in their nightstand. However, the opposite is actually true when it comes to many men. Most modern guys find it arousing when a woman is not only sex positive, but isn’t afraid to get to know her own body when it comes to what she likes.
You might want to rethink those reservations about bringing your sex toy into the bedroom with your partner as well. Many women worry that a man will feel extraneous or unnecessary. In actuality, men are very visual creatures that love watching their partners as they pleasure themselves or make good use of sexual aids. These days, men are increasingly open to vibrators and other toys you can use together as well. Try it and see for yourself!
