If you’ve ever had a really sexy dream before – the kind that’s hot enough and intense enough to lead to a sleep orgasm – then you know how delicious they can be. Erotic dreams can feel wonderfully realistic and give you the chance to explore all sorts of forbidden fantasies. The outstanding ones can put a little extra pep in your step for a while, as well.
If you love sleep orgasms, you probably wish you could have them more often. You may even long to be able to have them entirely at will. Here’s what you need to know about sexy dreams and sleep orgasms, including how to noticeably increase your chances of having them.
What are sleep orgasms?
Sometimes also called a wet dream, a sleep orgasm is exactly what it sounds like – an orgasm you have while you’re sleeping, often as the culmination of an erotic dream. Although you most often hear about men having wet dreams, women can definitely have them, as well. They’re just less likely to realize it’s happened in the first place, as the evidence is a lot less conclusive.
Although not everyone necessarily enjoys wet dreaming, it is something anyone can potentially do. Sleep orgasms are most common among teenagers, but adults of any age can have them, as well. Hormonal changes like puberty, menopause, pregnancy, and the like may make them more likely to occur in some people.
If you’ve either never had a sleep orgasm or aren’t sure whether you have, don’t worry. It’s not abnormal not to have them. Everyone’s different, so there are those who have them too often, those who never have them at all, and lots of people who are somewhere in between.
Get into the right mindset before bed.
Have you ever noticed that when you do remember your dreams, they’re often all about something that’s been on your mind recently? You’ll conjure up people you’ve been thinking about, finish conversations you’ve started lately, and maybe even dream about characters from the show you were watching right before bed.
That said, sometimes having a sexy dream is as simple as consuming some erotic media right before bed or entertaining a few naughty thoughts while you’re trying to fall asleep. Naturally, you don’t want to masturbate and destroy all that delicious tension. Just let those spicy thoughts linger while you’re drifting off, and see what happens.
Make sure you’re comfortable.
It’s impossible to overestimate the importance of comfort when it comes to the quality of your sleep. This is the case whether you’re trying to have sleep orgasms or not, but the right sleeping conditions certainly help set the stage. The more comfortable you are while sleeping, the better your chances of having sweet dreams, sexy or otherwise.
Make sure you sleep in something soft and breathable – comfy underwear or pajamas if you’re not comfortable sleeping in the nude. Your bedding is important, as well. Swap out sheets that are rough, overworn, or old in favor of soft or silky options that make sleeping feel like an indulgent treat. Some people think sleeping on your stomach makes orgasmic dreams more likely, but you should choose whatever sleeping position you’re most comfortable with.
Try nixing the orgasms for a while.
Many people who regularly have wet dreams say they have them most often when it’s been a while since their last orgasm, which makes sense. The longer it’s been since your body’s last release, the higher the chances of your brain focusing on sex while you’re sleeping, and the more likely any erotic dreams you do have will result in an orgasm.
If you usually masturbate or have sex right before bed, try skipping it one night and seeing what happens. Alternatively, if you think you can stand it, you can try teasing yourself with toys or your fingers just to enjoy the sensations but backing off before you reach the point where an orgasm is a must.
Relax and enjoy the ride.
Sex, erotic thoughts, and how you respond to them are fascinating subjects to explore. Sexy dreams are not only fun in their own way but can provide valuable insight into some of the things that turn you on. They’re fun to talk about with a partner or to use as inspiration for future play sessions. And, of course, the good ones make great additions to the ongoing vault of pet fantasies you keep filed away in your head.
That said, it’s worthwhile to see if you can train yourself to have orgasmic dreams, but don’t stress about it if nothing quite seems to work. Some people just don’t have them as a rule. Just relax, enjoy the process, and savor any fun occurrences that do happen to come your way.
