If you really enjoy a little solo sex once in a while, you’re in excellent company. On average, about 78% of all Americans admit to having masturbated at one point or another in their lives. Some people even dig solo sex so much that they masturbate more than once a day. It’s not just your sex life with your partner that can get a little stale if you do things the same exact way over and over again though. Masturbation can also lose its luster if you don’t switch things up once in a while.
That said, if you’ve been feeling like your solo sessions could use a little extra oomph lately, you’ve definitely come to the right place. Here we’ll go over some effective and interesting new ways to spice things up on days when the sex is all about you. You’ll have more pep in your step in no time!
1. Add lube to the mix
You’re most likely already familiar with the way the right lube can take partnered sex from OK to excellent in no time flat. Well, lube can have the same awesome effect on solo action as well, especially if you’re looking to enhance your ability to orgasm. In fact, according to a recent study, a whopping 50% of those polled swore by lube as something that makes experiencing a phenomenal “O” a lot easier.
Don’t just settle for any old lube unless you want to either. Try an option that features a sexy scent you associate with passion, peace, or any other positive emotion. Take a fun warming lube for a test spin on your own before bringing it into the bedroom with your partner. Anything goes!
2. Treat yourself to a new toy
While there’s certainly nothing wrong with enjoying an au naturel session now and again, never underestimate the impact the right toy can have on your solo sex life. If you’re new to sex toys, consider getting started with an option like the famous rabbit vibrator. You hear about that particular vibe all the time for a reason – it delivers and then some!
Already been using a vibrator for ages? There’s definitely no law against having more than one toy to turn to when you feel the urge. Check out some of the newer, trendier options to hit the market in recent years and treat your toy chest to a much needed new addition. Alternatively, you can try getting yourself off with just your hands for a change. New sensations are the name of the game here, so always feel free to change things up.
3. Set a sexy mood
If you’re like a lot of people, you like to go the extra mile to set a sultry mood if you’re expecting some sexy company on a given evening. Who says you can’t do the same thing when it’s just going to be you? Next time you feel the urge or are looking for a surefire way to unwind after a tough day, treat yourself to some serious ambiance. You’re worth it!
Start by tidying up a little. (Piles of dirty laundry and old Chinese food containers hardly scream “sexy”.) Switch out your everyday sheets for something silky and inviting that will feel wonderful against your skin. Light a few candles in your favorite scent and enjoy!
4. Take your time exploring your body
When it comes to masturbation, it’s all too easy to fall into a routine once you figure out what works for you. If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it, right? However, a routine can easily become a rut if you’re not careful. Plus, your vagina and your clit are far from your only erogenous zones.
If you’ve never really taken the time to explore the wonders of your own body from head to toe, it’s high time you made it a point to do so. Some of your hot spots – like your nipples, to name just one – are more obvious. Others are little more unexpected or even unique to you. Try experimenting with different sensations as well. Compare how a vibrating bullet or a feather tickler feels on a particularly sensitive area as compared to your fingers, for instance.
5. Walk, don’t run, toward orgasm
We’re definitely not knocking the occasional quick and dirty solo sex session when you’re pressed for time or just want to get off in a flash. However, it’s also worth realizing that sometimes the best things come to those who wait. The next time you’re trying to pass time on a lazy afternoon, consider treating yourself to a slow and sensual pleasure session.
Bring yourself right to the brink of orgasm the way you normally would. Stop, breathe, and let the tension ebb a bit. Then work your way back up to that critical point all over again. Stop again. Repeat for as long as you think you can stand it. When you finally allow yourself to go over the edge, you won’t believe how intense the experience will be.
6. Treat yourself to some porn
If you don’t usually use porn to help enhance the experience when you’re getting busy all by yourself, maybe it’s time to give it a try. Try it even if you think you’re not all that into it. There are more types of porn out there these days than you can possibly imagine, so there really is something out there to suit everyone.
Plus, a solo sex session is the perfect opportunity to make the selection of the evening all about you. Check out something you’re totally into even if your partner isn’t. Sometimes it’s fun to check out some new options as well. You just might hit on a creative new idea you’d like to try sometime either on your own or with a partner. Variety is the spice of life and porn makes for excellent inspiration!
7. Don’t limit yourself to just one
If you’ve never experienced the fabled multiple orgasm for yourself, don’t simply assume that you’re not personally capable of it. Think of it as something you can teach yourself to achieve (because it totally is). Solo sex sessions provide the perfect learning environment, as there’s no pressure to experience anything in particular and no worries about hurting a partner’s feelings if it just doesn’t happen for whatever reason.
Experiment with a couple of different techniques to see what’s most likely to get the job done. Go for your first orgasm and then take a breather for 30-60 seconds to give your body a much-needed moment to recover before going in for seconds. You’ll still be highly simulated thanks to the first orgasm, but not as oversensitive as you might have been just after, so don’t be surprised if you feel a second “O” coming on relatively quickly. Try going for a third, a fourth, or as many as you’re in the mood for. Eventually, you’ll develop a technique that you can totally replicate with a partner some night if you’re so inclined.
8. Try a new location on for size
Do you tend to masturbate in the same locations over and over again, cycling back and forth between your bedroom and your bathtub? Maybe it’s time to discover what it would be like to get busy somewhere else for a change. Trust us when we say just about anywhere is a good place to take yourself on a little joyride.
Do you tend to feel tense and stressed out in the middle of your workday? Try treating yourself to a quick “O” somewhere discreet as a way to break up your day in all the right ways. Are you totally into having partnered sex in public? Consider enjoying a quick rubdown all by yourself someplace you just might get caught. If you’re so inclined, you can even invest in an ultra-discreet vibrator that looks exactly like a lipstick, a mascara wand, or some other everyday item and slip it into your purse so it’s always at the ready when the mood hits you.
9. Go solo together
Mutual masturbation represents the best of both worlds. You get to enjoy a hands-on solo experience that features all the moves you know will get you off while connecting with a partner at the same time. That said, it’s really worth trying at some point if you’ve never done it.
Stimulating yourself in all the right ways while watching a partner do the same is seriously hot to say the least. Plus, taking note of how your partner likes to touch their body while they do the same with you is a great learning experience for the both of you. Don’t be afraid to add a little dirty talk, some porn you both like, your favorite sex toys, or anything else that would enhance the experience for the two of you.
At the end of the day, you’re quite simply missing out on a potentially amazing experience if you treat solo play like a purely utilitarian chore. It can be indulgent, relaxing, and wholly enjoyable in its own right, so don’t be afraid to explore a little. We promise you’ll be glad you did!
