If you’re like many people, you probably have a little checklist full of essential items you like to make sure you bring with you on your way out the door to a date. In addition to the essentials like your keys and cell phone, you might grab a tin of breath mints or some wet wipes in case of a hygiene emergency. Maybe you toss a couple of condoms into your bag, just in case.
But have you ever considered grabbing your favorite portable vibrator and bringing it along on your date, as well? If not, maybe it’s time you changed that thinking. Let’s unpack what the benefits are, as well as why every sex-positive person should consider it.
It pays to be prepared
Hey, it’s 2022, and most people are pretty sexually liberated by now. There’s really no reason to pretend no one ever has sex on a first date, because plenty of people do. People often decide to hook up with someone on a whim while they’re out having fun, too, and there’s nothing wrong with that, either.
But preparedness is a must, especially when it comes to safeguarding your sexual health. You’re likely already in the habit of carrying a couple of condoms around with you, just in case you find yourself taking advantage of a sexy opportunity. Why not take preparedness one step further?
In addition to condoms, consider bringing along a travel-sized bottle of your favorite water-based lube and your favorite portable vibrator for good measure. Options like bullet vibes, vibrating eggs, or mini wands are versatile picks that are compatible with everyone’s anatomy and preferences.
It shows you value a good time
The days when vibrators were a single person’s dirty little secret, only to be enjoyed when they were all alone, are long over with. These days, it’s smart and sexy not only to own a sex toy but to be open to sharing all those good vibrations with a partner. Bringing a vibrator along on a date – especially a first date – shows that you not only like being prepared but also value pleasure.
And when your date sees that you’re willing to use your toy to enhance a sexual experience for both of you, you’ll also show them that you’re the giving type. Everyone loves a generous lover, and bringing a vibrator to the party is one way to show that you are that and then some.
It’s a great way to feel empowered
If you’re a toy lover, then you’re probably long past any thinking that frames an orgasm as something you need to wait for a lover to give you. It can (and should) be something you’re able, willing, and eager to give to yourself, and a vibrator is a perfect way to put yourself in the driver’s seat when it comes to your pleasure.
Bringing your vibe along with you on a first date can be even more empowering. It shows you not only want and expect to have a good time but that you’re willing and able to help facilitate that for the both of you. It’s also a great way to set the tone for any future encounters. You’re showing your date that you consider yourself responsible for your own pleasure and don’t need or expect them to do all the heavy lifting.
It takes the pressure off
Whether you’re only interested in a one-night thing or plan on seeing where things lead with the person, a first time with anyone new can be exciting. But it can be nerve-wracking, too, especially if you do decide to end the first date in bed. After all, you don’t really know each other yet. Neither of you has any idea what the other person likes or what types of stimulation really do it for them.
Bringing a toy like a vibrator into the mix can help take the pressure off from figuring things out for both of you, especially on a first date. Making sure each of you is stimulated enough to reach orgasm won’t be a problem. You’ll spend less time feeling awkward and more time lost in the moment, just as you should be.
There’s nothing to lose
Even if that vibrator never actually makes its way out of your purse, you’ll find it feels good to know you have it on hand regardless. You may even want to make a habit of carrying it. After all, you never know when you might find yourself getting up close and personal with someone or unexpectedly staying the night somewhere other than home.
Plus, today’s offerings regarding vibrators make it extra easy to take your pleasure on the go. In addition to classic portable options like vibrating bullets, there are even extra-discreet options available that are designed to look like lipstick, mascara, or even wearable jewelry. Explore the possibilities!
