Whether you’ve been wanting to explore kink for years or have only recently had your horizons expanded by Fifty Shades of Grey, it’s not hard to understand the appeal of BDSM. It’s sexy, trendy, and intriguing. It also comes attached to some very real benefits for couples who do decide to take the plunge and experiment with it.
Exploring BDSM as a couple can increase intimacy, build trust, and bring you closer together. It can help improve mental health and relieve stress for individuals as well. Figuring out what gear options to get started with can be confusing for beginners though, so it’s best to begin with some essentials. The following are some great examples.
1. Spank Provocateur Bed Coupler Restraints
Lots of couples experiment with bondage for the first time by using scarves or neckties to restrain each other and that’s fine. Sooner or later though, you’ll want to invest in something a little more substantial so you can get serious about your play. An all-in-one- restraint kit makes a great first gear purchase for that reason.
This no-nonsense bed restraint kit takes all the guesswork out of tying your partner up in bed and showing them a good time. It comes complete with everything you need to get started including restraints for both wrists and ankles, tie-downs, cuff connectors, and even a sexy blindfold. Included items are designed to comfortably fit any wearer and any bed, so all you have to worry about is getting into the mood.
2. Fetish Pleasure Play Breathable Black Ball Gag
The only thing hotter than a lover who’s properly tied down is one who’s also properly gagged, but it’s hard to come up with homemade gag options that are both effective and safe. A good ball gag makes it easy to create an authentic experience you’ll both enjoy without worrying about whether or not what you’re doing is jeopardizing anyone’s safety.
This black silicone gag from Fetish Pleasure Play makes a terrific first pick for couples who are just getting started with BDSM. A simple design, full adjustability, and body-safe silicone ensure a comfortable, approachable experience for all play lovers. A trio of breathing holes ensures your play stays safe under any set of circumstances.
3. Spank Provocateur Long Black Paddle
Who doesn’t love a good spanking from time to time? Spankings are fun to receive, but sometimes being on the giving end is just as appealing. Whacking away at your partner’s naughty behind using nothing but your bare hand can get tiring though, especially when they’ve been bad enough to warrant an extra-lengthy session. A simple leather paddle makes it easy to take the fine art of spanking to the next level and go the distance.
This black leather paddle from Spank Provocateur is simple enough that it’s appropriate for beginners, but it’s sophisticated enough that it will continue to hold your interest long after you’ve become a spanking expert. Genuine leather conveys sensation like a dream while a long, slim design makes it easy for the spanker to control the positioning and intensity of each blow.
4. Fetish Pleasure Play Red Feather Tickler
A little pain makes the pleasure so much sweeter, but pain isn’t the only sensation worth exploring by any means. Gentle sensations like playful tickles and gentle caresses provide a nice contrast to stinging smacks or sharp pinches. Try exploring delicate sensations like these for the first time with a feather tickler.
This flirty red option from Fetish Pleasure Play is double-sided, so it makes it easy to explore a variety of sensations at one time. Tease your partner’s eager nerve endings with some light caresses from the feathered end. Whip your lover into submission when they’ve been bad with the handy riding crop attached to the handle.
5. Fetish Pleasure Play Red Hearts Collar and Leash
No sub’s bedroom wardrobe can be considered complete without a collar. However, it’s important to make sure you pick the right one. A good collar suits the wearer’s personality, but it’s got to be highly functional as well. This black leather option with red punch-out hearts and stitching makes a perfect first choice.
To begin with, this collar is durable, beautiful, and well-suited to a variety of different wearers. It’s also fitted with heavy-duty metalwork and comes complete with a matching leash, so it’s easy to start experimenting with different types of play right out of the gate.
Of course, these are just some suggestions to start with when it comes to BDSM play. As you and your partner discover more about your unique preferences, you may wish to expand your play with items like floggers, electro-stimulators, nipple clamps, costumes, and masks. Castle Megastore stocks all of the above and more, so count on Castle to keep boundary-pushing fun!
