Summer may be just around the corner, but it’s not too late to do a little last-minute spring cleaning when it comes to not only your surroundings but your life. If it’s been a while since you did a spring clean in your bedroom, why not start with your sex life? Here’s how you can channel that refreshing spring cleaning spirit in a way that makes your life and relationships fresher, spicier, and sexier than ever.
Take inventory and decide what’s working.
Even people who love sex and are satisfied with their sex lives can usually think of ways things could be even better. What about you and – if you’re in a relationship – your partner? Maybe the sex you’ve been having is straight-up awesome, but you’d like a lot more of it. Perhaps things have gotten a little routine lately and you’re due for a new sexual adventure or two.
Before you can treat yourself to a properly revamped sex life, you need to figure out what parts of it you’re open to changing and which parts are already working perfectly and shouldn’t be touched. Have a chat with your partner. Let them know your thoughts and figure out how you can proceed together.
Give your bedroom a new lease on life.
If you’re into spring cleaning as a rule, then the chances are pretty good you’re already in redecorating mode as it is. Don’t forget to focus some of that energy on your bedroom with the future health of your sex life in mind. Turn it into a luxurious haven that puts you right into the proper mood.
Start by clearing your bedroom of any clutter, as well as any items that don’t need to be there. (Do you really need your laptop in there or that big pile or work notes?) Then look for ways you can make the atmosphere sexier and more sensual overall (e.g. new wallpaper, silkier bedclothes, or some scented candles).
Go over your sex toy collection.
If you’re like most people, you know you’re supposed to give your sex toys a thorough once-over every so often, but probably don’t do it nearly as often as you should. A spring cleaning session is a perfect time to inspect each of your toys and see if any are due for replacement. Pay special attention to integrity issues like broken water seals, frayed cords, cracks, pockmarks, or areas where the surface of the toy is peeling.
Decide whether it’s time to get rid of a few things you just never use as well. Are you totally over that anal vibrator you bought a few years ago? Maybe you’re just not feeling that set of fur handcuffs or never really liked that warming lube you picked up on a whim. Let go of anything that’s just not working for you and treat yourself to some fun new things you’re truly excited about using.
Revamp your social media feeds.
Social media is more than just a wonderful way to keep up with friends, family, and acquaintances on the fly. It’s a big part of how most people find information, keep up with trends, get ideas, or kill a little extra free time. It can drastically affect how you feel about yourself and your life without you realizing it as well, so now is a great time to mindfully make some changes.
Are your feeds filled with fashion images that promote impossible body image standards that make you feel less than confident about your physique? Do you still follow your ex or those frenemies that only talk to you when they’re feeling argumentative? Rid your feeds and contact lists of anyone or anything that isn’t serving you. You’ll instantly feel better about yourself – a must if you’re serious about improving your sex life.
Make a pet fantasy come true.
Everyone has fantasies that are fun to think about, but that they wouldn’t necessarily be down to explore in real life and that’s fine. There’s something to be said for realizing some of the ones that are doable though. Fantasies can be fun ways to spice up your sex life, get closer to a partner, and learn more about what you’re really into sexually.
Sit down with your partner and take turns sharing pet fantasies. It can be just for fun if you like, but ideally, each of you would come up with a few that you’d be eager to explore in real life. Think about what turns you on. Figure out what you’d each like to experiment with. Then commit to making something happen.
Far too many people think of their sex life as a “set it and forget it” type of thing. In reality, it needs to be nurtured and cared for if it’s going to continue to satisfy you and enrich your relationships. How will you inject new life into yours this year?
