Let’s face it. Even though we know it’s not quite kosher, there’s just something about getting a little frisky in public that’s almost universally irresistible. It’s thrilling, it’s racy, and it’s a great way to deepen your connection with a partner. But what about those times you wish you could kick things up another notch or two?
If you and your partner love bringing vibrators into the mix when you’re in bed together, then it only makes sense that you’d wonder whether it’s possible to factor them into public play, as well. The good news is that public vibrator play is a thing. You just need to know how to choose the right option to bring along for the ride.
Pick a genuinely quiet toy
Really, this tip can’t be emphasized enough – the quieter, the better. And there’s no way around personally testing your options, either, as pretty much every vibrator manufacturer claims that their product is quiet enough to be virtually silent.
Because a vibrator might well be quiet enough to use at home behind closed doors without kicking up too much of a fuss. That doesn’t mean the vibrator quiet enough to go undetected during public play, so it’s essential to put an option through its paces first so you know for sure.
An excellent way to tell is to bring your vibrator into a room where a TV is playing at a normal volume, turn it on, and set it to its highest setting. Can you hear it? If so, it’s a no-go. But if you can’t hear it, you’re probably in the clear.
Read lots of online reviews
One of the better ways to figure out whether a vibrator can deliver the experience you’re after is to see what other users have to say about it. So before you purchase, be sure to read as many customer reviews as you can find of the toy.
People are more eager to talk about their experiences with a particular toy than you might think, especially if the toy in question was either really amazing or really awful. And toy lovers are especially apt to spill the beans on whether a particular toy measures up to the hype on the sales page, so it pays off to do your homework.
Pick a stay-in-place toy
As fun as it might sound to whip your mini-wand or your favorite bullet vibe out for a little clandestine fun, it’s not a practical choice under most circumstances. The key to great public sex play is to be able to be flexible as far as the opportunities you take advantage of. That’s a lot easier to do with a vibrator you can discreetly slip into place and leave where it is.
And you want to make absolutely sure your vibe will stay put from start to finish, as well. The last thing you want is for yours to go sliding out from under your skirt and clattering to the ground at the worst possible time. That bullet vibe you’re so attached to is probably much heavier than you think.
For best results, choose something lightweight and – if possible – specially designed to be worn and used hands-free. Panty vibrators are a good choice, as are vibrating Kegel balls, hands-free butterfly vibes, and similar options. Don’t forget to do a test run at home first to ensure that whatever you’ve chosen is practical for public play.
Consider upgrading to a remote-controlled toy
It’s not that it’s impossible to have a good, discreet time in public with a toy that needs to be controlled via the buttons on the toy itself. It’s possible. But, again, that takes a lot more creativity and finesse than most opportunities to get frisky in public will probably allow. Choose a remote-controlled option, though, and the world is truly your oyster.
Some toys come with a small standalone remote that’s easy to conceal in the palm of your hand or to discreetly pass to a partner without anyone else being the wiser. But there are many, many toys that you can control via a handy smartphone app from even long distances, as well.
Smartphone-controlled toys especially give you a lot of wiggle room to play with. You can, of course, give yourself a little buzz anytime while looking for all the world like you’re simply checking your Facebook feed or your texts. But you can also let your partner surprise you from all the way across town with a naughty little jolt when you least expect it here and there throughout the day.
Ultimately, the more flexibility your toy choice gives you to adapt and play things by ear, the more satisfying your experience will be. Start your search today, and see where your adventures take you!
