Haven’t you heard? Sex toys aren’t just for women anymore and haven’t been for some time now. A man’s body responds just as well to various types of stimulation as a woman’s does. Plus, sex toys make wonderful ways to add variety, nuance, and additional enjoyment whether you’re indulging in a solo session or having sex with a partner.
Even so, there’s still an unfair social stigma surrounding male sex toys and the men that use them. We’ll address why that stigma deserves to be shattered and explore how adding sex toys to your own repertoire can only make your sex life better. We’ll point you in the right direction when it comes to choosing an ideal first toy or two as well.
First a Little Myth Busting
Back in 2009, Indiana University conducted a study about men and sex toys. According to the data collected, around 45% of men between the ages of 18 and 65 reported having used a vibrator before. There were also some interesting differences between those men and the other 55% that hadn’t ever experimented with a sex toy. They included:
- Better overall sexual function.
- Higher levels of satisfaction with not only their sex lives, but the quality of their orgasms.
- Fewer issues relating to erectile dysfunction and other similar conditions.
- Higher likelihood to engage in good sexual health habits (i.e. regular testicular examinations).
In other words, sex toy use is clearly something that’s as good for men as it can be for women. It improves their self-esteem and overall satisfaction with the quality of their sex lives. In many cases, it makes them better lovers that take better care of their bodies as well. So why is the stigma surrounding male sex toy use so persistent? The following widely believed myths might have something to do with it.
1. Women need sex toys. Men don’t.
You hear a lot of stories about women that have never had an orgasm, that aren’t sure whether they have, or that only have them occasionally. The fact that people never really hear anything like that about men erroneously leads them to believe that men have no real reason to use sex toys.
First of all, there are lots of reasons why someone – male or female — might want to use a sex toy and a desire to overcome issues reaching orgasm is only one of them. Sex toys can open the door to a whole new world of sensations and possibilities to enjoy. A man is just as capable of appreciating that as a woman is.
2. Only perverts are into sex toys.
Unfortunately, there are still some that think “needing” a sex toy because you can’t orgasm otherwise is the only reason for having one in the first place. Anyone else must be a total pervert, up to and including pretty much any man.
Hopefully we don’t really need to tell you that isn’t true, but it’s understandable if you’re secretly worried about it. Media and popular culture have softened a bit when it comes to female sex toy use, often portraying it as liberating. Male sex toy users, on the other hand, are still often portrayed as deviants or jokes for no good reason. You’re not a pervert for liking to give your body pleasure – period.
3. Only gay or effeminate men use sex toys.
Perhaps the most persistent myth surrounding male sex toy use is the “gay factor”. It’s also the one that makes the least sense here in the year 2019. Wanting, owning, or using a sex toy has no bearing whatsoever on whether or not you’re “manly enough”.
As touched on above, men that use sex toys are men that are comfortable in their own skins. They love themselves and see masturbation as the normal, healthy thing that it is. They’re also men that care about their sexual health and strive to be good, attentive lovers. We don’t see the problem with any of that and neither should you.
If you’re not ready to talk about your interest in using sex toys or feel they’re for you, that’s fine. On the other hand, if you’d like to explore sex toys you shouldn’t allow anyone to stop you – especially for any of the reasons listed above.
Popular Male Sex Toys and Their Benefits
Of course, knowing you’re ready to dive into the wonderful world of male sex toys is one thing. Deciding what to buy is another, as you’ve got a lot more options to choose from than you may be aware of. There’s no right or wrong place to start your journey, but the following are excellent first toys every man should at least consider.
1. Cock Rings
It’s the most natural thing in the world for a guy to want to bring his A-game when it’s time to get down and dirty. He wants to wow his lover with his huge, hard, impressive erection and he wants to last long enough to show them a seriously good time. Cock rings can help you do both. No little blue pill necessary!
Cock rings are elastic rings that fit around the base of the penis and/or the scrotum. Their purpose is to keep you good and hard by trapping blood inside the penis. They not only help you last longer, but deliver some seriously toe-curling orgasms when you do finish. There are also textured cock rings out there to help your lover along, as well as vibrating cock rings that can take intercourse to the next level for both of you.
2. Masturbation Sleeve
If you’re interested in sex toys to make your solo sessions more exciting consider getting a masturbation sleeve (i.e. a Fleshlight). Also known as pocket pussies, masturbation sleeves are perhaps the best substitute for the real thing. Most are designed to closely mimic the feeling of vaginal, anal, or oral sex. You can use additional accessories like suction cups or holders to position the toy to your liking while you enjoy the feeling of pumping away at it.
Masturbation sleeves are great picks for men that are interested in becoming better lovers. They can help you keep your stamina in check if you’re going through a long dry spell. You can even use yours in tandem with a cock ring to really train yourself to last longer.
3. Prostate Massager
We understand that a lot of guys squirm at the mere mention of “butthole pleasures”, but hear us out. Your prostate is capable of bringing a serious pleasure factor to the table and it’s really too good to miss out on. Yes, there’s a chance you might try it and not be into it, but you won’t know unless you give it a chance.
If you are curious about getting to know your prostate a little more intimately, there are entire lines of toys out there that can help you out. There are prostate massagers and P-spot dildos that can make short work of not only finding it, but showing you how good it can feel when it’s stimulated. There are even combination toys that can go inside you and stimulate your sensitive perineal area at the same time.
4. Bullet Vibrator
As touched on above, vibrators are not just for women. They’re fantastic when it comes to stimulating sensitive body parts rich in nerve endings and male bodies have plenty of those. If you’re into the idea of investing in a larger vibe, more power to you, but lots of guys love the versatility of something smaller and less phallic like a bullet vibe.
Bullet vibes and pocket rockets aren’t meant for penetration. They’re all about surface stimulation. Try yours on the head of your penis, your shaft, your scrotum, or even your nipples. You can also bring it into the bedroom with a lover and make strategic use of it while you’re showing them a good time. We doubt you’ll hear any complaints!
There’s no need to stop at the above suggestions when it comes to exploring the increasingly expansive world of male sex toys. Try some of the basics and use your newfound knowledge of what you like to zero in on other options you’ll love.
Were you totally floored by the experience your P-spot stimulator brought to the table? Try a vibrating butt plug on for size sometime. Were you and your partner both wowed by your first time making love with a vibrating cock ring in place? Consider investing in a wearable couple’s vibrator. Restraints and roleplay gear are well worth trying sometime as well. Explore the possibilities today!
