Since so many women tend to have trouble reaching orgasm, their focus is typically on simply getting there in the first place. (For men, it’s mainly about lasting longer.) There’s a lot less focus on learning how to amplify the quality of an orgasm, and that’s really a shame, as there’s truly nothing better than the kind of explosive climax that makes you swear the earth just moved.
That’s where learning about and mastering edging can be a real game-changer. Here’s what you need to know about edging to get started in the right direction. We’ll cover what it is and why it’s beneficial, as well as give you a few tips to start exploring it on your own or with a partner.
What is edging?
Sometimes also called surfing or peaking, edging is the practice of gaining total control over one’s orgasm. To do it, you simply bring yourself right up to the point of orgasm and then stop, allowing the feeling to subside. You then repeat that sequence as many times as you can stand.
Saying that edging delivers a more powerful orgasm is like describing a tsunami as a really big wave. These are whole-body orgasms that leave your entire body spasming with pleasure. They last longer, as well.
What are the benefits of edging?
Aside from the most obvious benefit – indescribably powerful orgasms that are positively life-changing – there are many reasons to give edging a try. It’s a practice that benefits people of every gender, as well as couples who want to maximize the experiences they share.
- Edging gives both men and women better control over their orgasms.
- Orgasms not only tend to be more powerful but last longer, as well.
- Edging supports stronger, more intimate connections between partners.
- Edging also encourages a deeper, more intimate understanding of one’s own body.
- You can focus your attention on the lovemaking experience instead of simply on the end goal of having an orgasm.
- With practice, edging makes the holy grail of simultaneous orgasm achievable.
But to experience all those benefits, you need to master edging as a technique. Let’s go over a few pointers for precisely doing that.
Start by experimenting on your own.
One of the best things any pleasure lover can do for the quality of their sex life with a partner is to see masturbation as an opportunity to learn, experiment, and practice. Learning the ropes on your own gives you a low-pressure chance to perfect new techniques like edging, so you’re confident and knowledgeable by the time you try it with your partner.
Section off a nice chunk of time to simply play, experiment, and enjoy everything you’re doing. Practice different ways of bringing yourself to the brink of orgasm, including toys, stimulating lubes, or other options. Repeat the process two or three times a week. Keep that up for long enough, and you’ll notice a significant difference in the amount of control you have over your orgasmic experience.
Learn how to identify the point of no return.
Everyone experiences a point of no return when it comes to orgasm, and where that point is varies from person to person. It also feels different from one person to the next, and the only way to figure out what it feels like to you is to practice. Edging works best when you can bring yourself as close to that point as possible, so it’s worth learning to identify it.
One way to gain better control in this regard is to strengthen the pelvic floor muscles. To exercise your pelvic floor muscles, clench the muscles you would use to hold in your urine stream or a bowel movement. Then release them. Repeat this until you’ve completed a series of five to ten reps. Slowly work your way up to several rounds of ten reps per day for best results.
Practice with your partner when you’re ready.
When you and your partner both feel like you’ve gotten the basics of edging down on your own, it’s time to have fun practicing on each other. Practice bringing each other right to the point of no return, as well as communicating when you’ve reached that point. It might take a while to get your system down perfectly, but it’s lots of fun trying and well worth the wait.
Experiment with different lengths of time as far as how long you edge for, as well. There’s no one magic number of trips to (and back from) the brink of orgasm that is ideal for everyone. However, the general rule of thumb is to try to hold out for as long as you can take it. You can experiment with lengthening that amount of time as you become more experienced, too. Try it! You’ll love what it does for your overall satisfaction.
